Brando experienced a very strange
dysfunction family. Throughout his life, he was deceived and lied to about many
aspects of his life. She lied to him about his ethnicity during his childhood.
She also had many men coming in and out of her life leaving Brando to search
for the truth by himself.
Brando’s mother named herself running deer
and told Brando that his last name came from his father a native American named
Paul Skyhorse. Brando said that she chose to assume a new identity to be
different and stand out among others in their town in California.
In the text, Brando states that a father
was just someone he had a relationship with and throughout fifteen years his
mother has five sort of stepfathers that Brando gains a relationship with. One
of the father figures was a man named Frank, he came and went for a while until
the next man came. All the different lies and fathers confused Brando more than
anything. The truth he learned when he was thirty years old. He found out that
his father a Mexican American abandoned him and his mother at three years old.
His relationship with his biological
father once they finally met was very positive. He finally found the truth and
understood that the truth was simple. It did not seem as if he had any negative
feelings toward his father. Brando sounded like he knew his father had regrets
and came to terms with his life in a way.
In my opinion, I believe he named the book
Take This Man because it symbolized situations in his life where he had to take
a new name given to him and accept his life as it was. In his whole life, he
was given information from many people and try and make sense of it truth or
not. The title appears to represent people Brando may not have been familiar
with saying “take this” as if they were giving him information along
I think he kept his name after he found
out he was not a native American because it was the only real life he had
known. The name represented his struggles and survival through the hardships he
had already come out from. I believe that he sees it sort of pointless to
change his name at this stage of life it was almost meaningless.
Brando’s search for a father in his life
as a boy and later as a man throughout his life is central to understanding
himself because he is looking for the truth. He wants to get information about
himself through others to find his own identity as an individual. Another way
to look at is simply grasping the idea that he wants a stable relationship with
someone who can teach him about how to be a man.
In a way, he is trying to escape his
mother and grandmother by finding a father. Brando wants to learn about life
from others instead of only what his mother tells him.
The way his mother pushes people way is
very strange. She seems to push others away when they get too close and then is
upset when they walk away from the situation. I think she lets her emotions
chose how she treats people in the moment and then she learns from her mistakes
and regrets her decisions.
I think at the time she thought that it
was more exotic because in the area that they lived native American population
was scarce. I believe that they gained a sort of popularity and interest from others
being culturally diverse in the community. They completely lost their Mexican
heritage; even now Brando states that he cannot truly identify with either
ethnicity and that is something he lost when his mother changed their lives.
Quotations from the book Section II
This quote directly explains Brando’s life
situation. He meets many people and has many father figures some he will make
relationships and other will just become vague memories of his past.
Brando tries to have many father figures
in case one leaves suddenly. He has this method prepared because in his life he
has no stable people that stay for long periods of time. Many father types come
and go so Brando accepts this fact and prepares for others to leave his life.
This quote shows his mother’s teachings.
she taught Brando that money equals love. Once he learned this it affected how
people were viewed in his life. He now needed money and gifts to feel loved.
This explains the chaotic teachings that his mother gave him that were twisted
Many times, in Brando’s life his mother
told him “at least it’s not boring”. When she said this, it was her
way of justifying her crazy life and its effects on Brando. She thought that
her wildlife and how it affected Brando was better than a boring life which is
Bando is forced to trust those that have
already lied and betrayed him. This depicts parts of his life where he had no
other choice but to accept and forgive those that deceived him because they
were all he had.
Critical Essay Topic Section III
Brando was only three years old he was abandoned by his father. When Brando is
finally able to talk to his father he finally gets the reason why he was
abandoned. Candido told Brando that his mother pushed him away and by his unstable
mother. Brando’s mother drives away many men thought the book and it seems as
if Brando understands this. Brando feels indifference between his father since
he had not known much about him he says “Sometimes the gap between Candido and
me feels too great, like an aside to the family I want with my sisters. It’s as
if my mother ripped out the pages of my story with Candido as she read them,
let them fall to her feet like plucked feathers, and then left Candido and me
to reassemble our book without the benefit of page numbers” (256). In this
quote, Brando is meeting a man that he does not know in the slightest. Even
though it is his father it makes a huge gap in their relationship like he says.
next quote depicts how awkward meeting his father is going to be and explains
it is very difficult to talk about. “On the drive to Candido’s house, we
struggled for small talk like picking up pennies wearing oven mitts” (232).
From this expert of the memoir, he is trying to explain how difficult it is to
speak about the subject of his father.
part of the memoir shows Brando’s emotions when going to meet his father “I’d
brought the bullets to destroy him, but the gun dissolved right in my hands.”
(228). This quote shows how prepared Brando was to dislike and oppose his
father who had abandoned him. Once they met he immediately could understand his
This final piece from
Brando’s memoir depicts Brando realization that he can break away from his
mother and life his own life. He states “The more I told my mother’s lies, the
less I felt like I was just an extension of her. The truth about Candido seemed
like another way for my mother to control me and define who I was. In the shade
of absolute falsehoods, I realized I could grow up” (105). With this said
Brando breaks away from the lies and stories that his mother had given to him.
I believe that Brando can understand his father’s reasons for leaving; Since
both had lived with her they can understand each other’s mindset when trying to
deepen their relationship