After to be an astronaut in the first

After a client
patient relationship was firmly established using the concept of unconditional
positive regard. I would start into more research about my client, where they
come from and what they maybe wanted to be when they were younger. I’d ask them
to close there eyes and go back to that place when they were their most happy
and free. Back to a place in time when the world was open to any and all
possibilities. Then id ask them at this point in time, what did you want to be
when you grew up? Say they wanted to be a astronaut. I’d ask them questions
like when did your dream of becoming an astronaut change? What changed “your”
mind? How did those changes affect your choice? Once the client starts
answering, then we can go down the road to have them discover their choices in
life effected the outcome. That they had the freedom to make different choices.
Then they can see their choices directly affected the outcome of their dream.
Once the actions are conceived by the client to be their own and not just
circumstance and bad luck as seen previously by the client. Then there comes
the freedom the client begins to understand they’ve had all along to make
choices to follow his/her dream to it’s absolute fullest capacity if they so
chose to. Then there would be questions like ” What made you want to be an
astronaut in the first place? What really awed you and made you dream of
someday going into space?” What drew you more than anything else to want t be a
astronaut? There answer could be that they loved studying the stars and seeing
how the constellations changed through out the year. And loved spending time
alone on top of their roof at night with their telescope when they were
younger. Marking and drawing which stars they saw that night. Then I could say”
So it sounds like you enjoyed the peace and quiet you had with just you and
your stars?” Maybe getting them to talking about their love for doing that,
they can see though they never became a astronaut: But maybe there is a field
in the true interest that they had, that still can be achieved by them. So in
turn I maybe would teasinly say” OK well your not 10 anymore, but your not
dead yet either are you ? So what would you do today to help make that little
hoy/girls dream of being alone with their stars come true?”  Maybe then the client discloses they’ve been
debating on going back to school lately anyways and just hadn’t really figured
out what they wanted to major in and had been batting around a few ideas but
just wasn’t truly excited about any of them. Then maybe the client says” You
know I could check into whats required for me to go back to become an
astronomer, just thinking back to that rooftop and those quiet nights has lit a
new fire within me. And you know what, I’m not dead, It’s not the end of the
world. I do have other choices I can make”. Now as a counselor I know all of
this isn’t going to happen in one session. It takes time to come to theses
realizations both for me about my client and how to help them become what they
truly are needing to be. And for my client to see what their role in the own
life has been and how they’ve created their own reality so to say. And that the
only one who can truly change their lives and their circumstances in their
lives is them and nobody else. That they have the freedom to chose a different
life just the same as they had the freedom to make their life what it is today.
Once they can take the responsibility for their choices and realize they still have
the freedom to make better choices to make them happy today and tomorrow and
that it’s not the end of the world for them, and they only have so much time on
this planet to begin with, that they don’t have to spend it unhappily to make
their own little world the best it can be. This is one way I’d try to introduce
a client into the propositions of existential therapy. To try to help them
discover who they were truly meant to be and to find happiness in living a more
fully authentic life and to of course see how making better choices in the
future will lead them to achieving and becoming what they were always capable
of being.