There are different forms of nonverbal communication. Most of them fall under the following categories: Facial and head patterns; gestures and posture patterns (Grammer and Kirsten 371). The story below seeks to demonstrate to us how non verbal forms of communication are used when a woman is flirting with a man.
Sasha and Frank are classmates and very good friends. Sasha is aged 23 while Frank is 25 years old. Sasha is a black American of low class background while Frank is of mixed race and belongs to a well off family. Sasha and Frank always sit next to each other during classes and remain together even during breaks and other college activities.
One day during the summer holidays, Sasha had her phone ring, it was Frank and he sounded distressed. He informed her that his dad was seriously ill and he was not sure whether he was going to make it. He really needed someone to comfort him.
Sasha quickly informed her mum that she was to leave in a short while to go and visit a friend who really needed her. Frank lived with his father in Franklin county about 100 kilometers from where Sasha and her parents lived. His mother had died a few years back due to a deadly fever she had contracted on her trips abroad.
Sasha hurriedly took a shower, dressed up, bid good bye to her mother and hurried for the bus station. She boarded a bus that was nearly full and begun the journey to Frank’s home. The journey took two hours, she couldn’t wait to see her friend and offer the necessary comfort to he so desperately needed.
When Sasha arrived, Frank was standing in front of the house. His face showed how sad he was. On seeing him, Sasha ran towards him, gave him a hug, patted him on the back and whispered to him “Sorry Frank, everything will be okay”. His father had been admitted to a local hospital complaining of extreme pain in the joints and general tiredness. As Frank was explaining this to her, she was looking at him with a “gaze fixate” glance while holding his hand (Grammer and Kirsten 371).
Frank hurriedly went into the house, took a few things and asked Sasha to take him to the hospital so that he could check on his dad. At this moment Sasha was feeling very sorry for her friend, she avoided any eye contact with him.
When they arrived at the hospital everything was quite. Frank went straight to the doctor’s office to inquire about his dad. Everything was so tense inside the doctor’s office. On seeing Frank and Sasha, the doctor forced a smile and informed him that his dad was in stable condition.
“Your dad is hypertensive and his blood pressure had gone beyond 200 but he is okay now, in fact he will be discharged today”. “Can I see him?” A smiling Frank asked. “Sure, he is resting in the emergency room.” answered the doctor. They later realized that a certain patient had died in the hospital, the reason why the doctor was sad.
After a small chart with his father about his condition, Frank introduced Sasha to him informing him that she was the best friend he had and so she had come to comfort him. His father joked that Frank should consider taking Sasha as his girlfriend.
It was about three o’clock when Frank and Sasha left the hospital. His father was to be driven home a few hours later by the family driver. The mood had changed, the once sad Frank was jovial, and he kept on remembering what his father had told him about Sasha. They went to Franks home to spend a few hours together while talking about different events that had occurred in each others life during the holidays.
After a few minutes of silence, Frank told reminded Sasha about what his dad had told him about taking their friendship to the next level. Sasha was lost for words, she had always thought of that as well and could not believe that this was happening.
She flipped her hair back and begun to push her fingers through her hair. Frank stared at her for a while, leaned back in his chair and asked. “Sasha can you be my girl friend?” after a short silence, she nodded. Frank reached for her hand, pulled her softly towards his body a begun to explain to her why he needed her beside him.
Sasha leaned n his chest, his words sounding like sweet music to her ears, music she had always longed to hear. She did not realize that her legs had come into contact with those of Frank (Grammer and Kirsten 371). She listened to him as she played with her hair. It was not long before the two started kissing while holding hands. About the same time they heard a vehicle enter the compound, it was Frank’s dad.
After spending one hour with the family, Sasha informed Frank that it was getting late and she needed to go home. She said bye to his father well, said bye to him and went with Frank to the bus station. On arriving at the bus station, they chatted for a while, exchanged hugs and kisses and then Sasha boarded a bus home.
This paper sought to identify ways through which women flirt with men using a story. It has been seen that women flirt with men mainly through the following ways: facial and head patterns, gestures and posture patterns (Moore 237). These categories have some specific movements that are identified and described depending on the degree.
Grammer, Karl and Kirsten, Kruck. “Non-verbal behavior as courtship signals: the role of control and choice in selecting partners.” Evolution and Human behavior 21 (2000) 371-390.
Moore, Monica. Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in Women: Context and Consequences: Missouri: Department of psychology, University of Missouri. 1985.