Stubbornness is cute in a toddler
but by the time the child reaches school age this may cause an unruly behavior
which leads to a problem for parents, teachers and others. When this leads to
this problem, how would you handle this as a teacher and a second parent to
school? The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own
parenting methods probably allowed our child to become unruly and by altering
them. Find ways how we can help our child behave appropriately.
A loving, stable relationship
between parents and children is the basis for the child’s healthy social
development. Tell your child you love him and show your love by taking time to
listen, to play, and to teach. The parent-child relationship is built on the
words you say and the tone of your voice. It is strengthened by the laughter
you share and the games you play together. It is forever bonded by the values
and skills you pass on to your child every day.
For both teachers and parents,
they have to set clear boundaries and stick to them. Meaning that discipline is
ruled to a child with a proper setting of boundaries that they can count on in
terms of assisting them. A child needs to know the exact behavior expected of
him. Child experts tell us that the children actually want boundaries and that
once firmly established; most children will respect the rules. Another thing is
make a very few threats but carry through on those you do make. If you aren’t
ready to make good on a threat, just don’t make it.
For parents, spend time with your
child. You don’t have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just
taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework
at the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeding of togetherness and may
reduce unruly behavior that stems from insecurity.
More so, set reasonable
punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may
respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his
allowance reduced. Avoid using chores as a punishment. Children should do
chores without pay as part of being in a family.
and response are the tools for improving your child’s behavior. An
understanding of behavior modification principles will help you plan your
responses to improve behavior. It all comes down to actions and consequences.
When a child’s action elicits positive reinforcement, it will be repeated over
time. When an action elicits punishment, it will eventually be extinguished.
Children learn to make the connection between
an action and its consequence when the reinforcement or punishment is immediate
and logically related to the action. Teachers don’t always have to provide the
consequence; most consequences occur naturally. Teachers can help make the
connection by talking to the child about what they did and why it lead to a
certain consequence. But, as teachers, our responses to our learner’s actions
are powerful consequences, either rewarding or punishing and therefore, shaping
his behaviour. In the context of a positive parent-child relationship, the
approval of a parent is usually enough of a response to reinforce or punish a
behavior. So in this case we can remanded it from the situation. When more
intensive rewards or punishments are needed.
summarize it all, the key is to attend to your child’s attitude, moods, and
behavior; and then, respond to both good and bad behavior quickly. Learn to
recognize when bad behavior is being reinforced or good behavior is being
extinguished, and adjust the consequences to turn it around. This requires that
we be attentive to our child and make the right response.